Son #1 has been invited to his first birthday party since he started school. He had a couple when he was at nursery, but they seemed so much easier. Is there some unwritten birthday party protocol, that I am not yet privvy to?
It started with “The Invitation”, which was sent out three weeks ago. It was a nice pink Little Miss one, with a tear off reply bit at the bottom. So far so good. But it also had a telephone number, so am I meant to reply by telephone, or send the slip back to school? I did the latter. The next matter of confusion was “The Gift”. Obviously a gift is required, but not having a little girl, I am not fully up on what is “in”. I deployed Son#1 to find out. He managed to discover that she was going to be 5 (not a given as they are in mixed age classes), and she wanted a card with either a dog or Barbie on. Nothing too tricky there then, but he forgot to find out about the present (typical man!).
Still, I thought I had enough to go on, so off we trudged into town to search for something suitably girly and pretty. First the card… this we managed without any real difficulty (in fact, the most difficult thing about it was getting to the birthday cards over the top of the pile of Christmas cards that were strewn about the shop, presumably in preparation for display).
Son #1 chose a lovely card that had a picture of a West Highland Terrier, with a bow on it’s head, and amazingly said 5! Part one of the mission was complete. Onto part 2. After a scour around the Early Learning Centre, Marks and Spencer gift department, and Debenhams, I was feeling a little disheartened. I had secretly been looking forward to buying girly things, but everything was either too girly (and she would probably already have it), too boring or too expensive - have you seen the price of dolls! We ended up in Waterstones and eventually chose a lovely book, which was girly (Dora The Explorer), marginally educational and within our budget. Hurrah! Job done… or not.
The party is fast approaching, and I still need to wrap the present and get Son #1 to write the card. Once at the party, what do I do? At the last one he went to, the mums stayed there, as it was younger children. But at this one there will be a mix of 3, 4 and 5 year olds, and it is in the local hall. So, what is the done thing? Am I meant to leave him, or am I expected to stay? The party is from 2pm until 4pm, so will there be food?
Seriously, there are so many unanswered questions - why isn’t there a book on this, like there is on every other aspect of parenting? Still, it is Son #1’s birthday in a month, and he has already expressed a desire for a party. I was hoping to persuade him to wait another year before starting “proper” parties, but we will have to see if he will be put off. And I will glean as many tips as possible from this event - just in case.
Any advice gratefully received - and wish me luck!